To be completed...

It has taken a while to compile...but i have finally managed to create a list of things that I have to do before I die...The list is ever growing but here are the first three off the list and why they should be done. Add them on to your own list or let it inspire to create one. 

Live in New York City

I am going to go ahead and say that this is possibly one of the greatest cities in the world and has to be experienced for more than just the tourist holiday to see the sights and do a bit of shopping. The city that never sleeps is called that for a reason. If its only for a summer visa, the full year or if you move there pertinently, put it on the list and be able to say that you lived in one of the most exhilarating places in the world.

Buy everyone in a bar a drink

It can be your local pub or a little bar than you come across on your travels. Be that person who shouts out 'This round is on me'. Try do it in a bar that's a little but more crowded than the regulars sitting around eating peanuts. And from this who knows who you may end up meeting...

Learn to fly a plane

A common entry for the list, but this is because it is a necessity and something that has to be experienced. To be up there in the clouds and control an aircraft will be a memory and a skill that can be ticked off the list. It may even become a new hobby or even a passionate career. Most people will master the skill of driving down on the roads, but some may not be brave enough to challenge themselves to drive in the air.

Clean out the soul...Clean out the music

Music is one of those things that you just can't escape from. You have to admit that it is nearly everywhere that you go, wheather you are aware of it or not.
The way those little notes work have the power to filter through our emotions and change the way we are feeling, right in that very second. Old school pop, to hardcore techno to the free-flow of rap. 
The beat can over come us, flowing right into our blood and then escaping out of our body again through dance in a matter of seconds. 
As Micheal Jackson once said "To live is to be musical, starting with the blood dancing in your veins. Everything living has a rhythm. Do you feel your music?"

As we go through different stages in our lives and different experiences, we listen and associate with different music, as that is how connected we feel to that beat and those words at that time.

But as we move on from these certain stages and experiences, it can be important to let go of those beats. Clearing out your iPod can be the best cleanses that you can carry out on yourself. And here is how...

1. If it has not been listened to in 6-12 months then DELETE.

It is that song that you imeidiatly change if it comes up on shuffle. You know the one that you get embarrassed about if anyone is scrolling through your playlist? This little guy has to go. There is the exception of the "Oh remember this song" moment, where you and your friends laugh and sing aloud because it brings back a good memory, but do not be fooled! This little old badger is not one of those.

1. The " I'm so alone" song

So after that horrible break up that left you devastated, the one that made you reside to your bedroom only to stare blankly out the window, eating ice-cream while repeatedly listening to Lana Del Ray 'Dark Paradise'. But it has now been a good few months since that heartache place you were in, and this (and similar little buggers) are still taking up room on your iPod, and there for still reminding you of that horrible time.

DELETE. There is nothing worse than you being in a great mood and this sad song suddenly thumping through your earphones to make you want to curl up on the path right there and then and start weeping. Gather all these slow hearted depressing songs and press the delete button.

• The "Couple" song

Briefly while we are on the subject of songs of past relationships, lets cover this one quite quickly so we can pretend that this step was already taken by yourself before I mentioned it.

That song that you and your old other half used used to call  "your" song....that needs to go.....delete it off  your musical dukebox and then even go as far as going into your recycling bin and deleting it from there, never to return to it until you are in the old folks home looking through all your memories.

Glad that little one got cleared up 

• Have upbeat playlist's made

Collaborate your favorite songs all into one playlist so that they are always bundled together. You can have a playlist for when you are going to the gym, road trip songs, music for when you are getting ready to go out to a party, or just lazy sunny summer tunes for chilling out the back garden to. Whatever types of situations you find yourself in with your iPod and life, group the music together. 

• Hit the Hot 100

So I take it after that after deleting all of the old soppy songs, the songs you never listen to and the songs you have never will listen to that there is about 10 decent jams left on your iPod. This is when you hit up You tube, Billboard, the I tunes store, or any other places that will have the latest and greatest music. Discover new songs and artists that you like, and find those feel good beats that you know will make you smile every time you hit play. There is no greater feeling than turning around to your friends and introducing them to the next summer hit before they have heard it.

• Find your 'Monday' song

This little beauty may be hard to come by, but when you find your unique Monday song and put it on the iPod, you know its a guarantee smiler. The thing about the Monday song, is that it only really should be played on Monday's. Even when you are really sad and need cheering up, you should have dedicated other songs on a playlist as a perk up. The Monday song is the 'pick me up' in the morning song and have you zooming into the week ready for anything.

• Be ruthless with the music

If you really want a good clean out, then starting with your music is one of the best places to begin. A long this clean out you could find songs that you fall in love with all over again or you could find songs that you cringe you ever had play through the headphones. Whatever it is, don't be to kind about it. If you really do not think you will listen to it again, then get rid of it and replace it with something new, better and upbeat.

<3 Be Happy Xo

I saved a life today...My own....

I have given up smoking and decided to give my lungs some loving. For to long I have puffed away and the effects are already making me like a prune.

For those of you who do smoke, you will all know that its a lot harder than just 'quitting'. The social smoker, who has the odd one when there out with the group. The chain smoker, who has a cigarette in their hand more than anything else.

The list if different types of 'smokers' go on, whatever you want to call yourself. At the end of the day, if you put a cigarette up to your mouth either one a week or once a minute, then you are just a smoker, there is no other name for yourself.

You have to want to quit and be ready to . If you are forced to and don't want to give up, then you have less of a chance of succeeding.

I was told by one of my friends (who quit three weeks ago) to imagine that I am going out on Friday night. I have a shower, put on my favorite creams and perfume. I do my hair and slip into that new expensive dress and give my teeth a nice little bath as well. After all that time and effort, she then tells me to light up a cigarette so that my perfume now becomes the stench of smoke, my clothes reek, and I may as well have used a cigarette as my toothbrush (vivid image isn't it?)

It is only the begining, and it is going to be a long road ahead, but at least I will live a longer life.

I love my lungs

<3 be happy Xo

"I don't know why he keeps treating me like this..."
"I don't know why your still going out with him..."

Yes in many cases i have uttered both sentences. I watch as my friends stay with a boy who I know, and who they also know, will cause their pretty little hearts to smash around their converse shoes.
I have also been the fool who should have listened and who has worn the converse...for almost five years.

So why the sudden rant about this? Why do we want to avoid kicking off the converse, worn day in and day out, with several holes on the sole, symbols of the arguments that you guys have gone through? And instead, slip on a pair of Louboutins.

Okay, sorry for comparing mine and your love relationship to shoes...its a bit straying off the point.

Staying in a relationship because it is safe, comfortable or because even the opposite where you can't leave, is not the right thing to do. More than likely they will not change. This is a fact. Love is not a maybe thing.You should be sure about it. If you hesitate, and doubt the relationship already, then something is not right and you can not keep ignoring it.

Yes, of course you love him, there are so many reason's why you should stay with him and it could work out. The way you have little sayings, the smell of his aftershave, the way he takes all the green skittles out of the packet because they make you sick. Lets just get this, aftershave comes in a bottle and a lot of the population probably wear it. Most couples have little sayings that are established over time when funny occurring incidents take place. And if skittles make you sick, then stop eating them!! There has to be more than this to a relationship. You have to be on the same level. If you can not honestly look at the relationship and be 100% sure you should be there, then put on your heels and walk away.

I thought that things would change. Over the course of many years, I put up with lies, cheating, tears, heartache,  break ups and make ups, giggles, holding hands, secrets and kisses. There is good and bad. But you can only handle it if it is with the right person and you are truly happy.

Guaranteed that someone out there is going to be very happy when you walk into their lives and you chose not to get back with your Ex.

Now, lets not all go dumping our partners because of something small. The above applies to someone out there who reads it. You just may not believe that is it you who it applies to. Follow your gut and instinct and you can't go wrong.

Sure, I wrote the thing and thought that I didn't apply to me for the past five years....

<3 Be happy Xo

It's all about today and tomorrow. That's the way you have to look at it.
Yesterday is gone, forget about it. 
The unknown is lying ahead of us and I just want to dive right into it.


And so blogging begins,, as i try to change my silly ways and live a bit more. As the saying goes "Yesterday is history, tomorrow is a mystery"


Going to try and do one thing that scares me every day...hope it inspires....or even if you do the same to me. From the smallest thing to the wildest.


Of course there will also be my almost insane comments, courtesy of my day to day run ins in life 


<3 Be happy Xo